Henry Flores
Dec 22 2014

‘They need opportunities, not blame’

Henry Flores

Henry Flores records sponsored members playing soccer in Mexico.

By Henry Flores, director of the Unbound communications center in El Salvador

During a filming trip to the Dominican Republic, the director for the shooting told me, “I want to portray the sponsored members, the poor, in a way that describes who they really are. I know what the world tells me the poor are, please tell me what they are not!”

Our general conception of those living in poverty has been modeled by what we have seen or read, creating for many a preconceived image of the poor. After 20 years working with poor people and communities in many countries, I can tell you they are not what we´ve been told.

“The poor are lazy.” A mother who wakes up at 4:30 a.m. every day, showers with cold water outside her house, lights up the firewood stove to make breakfast, gets her children ready to be at school by 6:45 a.m., gathers firewood in the mountains for two to three hours a day, carries water from a river or buys it from a water selling truck, cleans the house, picks up her children from school at noon, helps them with homework and still goes out to sell items on the streets of her community to make some income, cannot be lazy.

“The poor are dangerous.” They may live in dangerous places, where some lazy and dangerous people generate crime, just like in any country out there, but that doesn’t make them dangerous. As a matter of fact, these social problems are part of the reasons why poor people have difficulty overcoming their reality; they are also victims of it.

“The poor only wait for the fish, they don’t want to learn how to fish.” The poor have been surviving for centuries. They have raised their children, built their modest homes, sent their kids to school for as long as they can afford to and put food on their table. They have worked hard! One can’t do all of that by waiting for the fish to be given, they have been fishing all their life. What they need is a better pond to fish in, they need better fish in the pond, and sometimes, they simply need a pond to fish in. They need a chance and they need opportunities, not blame.

The poor don’t want to be poor. Every single mother and father I have talked to for the past 20 years, even in the most impoverished areas my eyes have seen, have told me:
“I want my children to study and become a professional,” or
“I want my children to work hard and have a better life than what I have given them,” or
“I want my children to have a better future.”

My heart and soul know that they those living in poverty are amazing human beings who, once given a chance, can transform their own deep realities, their families and their communities. My hope is that I will be given the chance to continue being with them, to keep learning from them and to deserve the amazing love they have given me over the years.

By the way, the poor don’t just “seem” happy; they ARE happy, in spite of their reality.

Sponsored children in Guatemala

From right: Santos, Ervin and Rosaria play a game with other sponsored children in Guatemala.

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3 thoughts on “‘They need opportunities, not blame’”

  1. Henry’s article is very inspiring. I have had the privilege to meet Henry during my two trips to El Salvador to visit my sponsored child. He is a truly amazing man and his dedication to the poor very evident. I have noticed also his joy for life which I’m sure he would attribute to this work with the poor. I pray for him along with my sponsored child. He is a special instrument of God.

  2. Nicely written and inspiring message. My sponsored children all aspire to become better educated so they can be leaders in assisting the undereducated. It is very rewarding to observe their actions in motivating others to move forward. Despite limited physical assets, they exhibit such positive, caring and loving attitudes that is so wonderful. We can learn so much from them.

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