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Apr 16 2014

India can be a dangerous place to be a girl

Students on their way to school in Suryapet, India.

Students on their way to school in Suryapet, India.

Unbound believes in empowering women. Our mothers groups began in India and now help women around the world gain vital financial support, education and confidence. We encourage all efforts in India to keep women and girls safe so that they may continue to drive positive change in their communities. Help us.

By Dan Pearson, director of international programs at Unbound

India can be a dangerous place to be a girl.

Rape, abuse, dowry customs, child labor and infanticide are part of a tragic legacy in this country that is also full of bright minds and a rich cultural heritage.

The savage gang rape of a young woman unfortunate enough to ride the wrong bus in New Delhi 18 months ago took women’s rights to the streets where thousands marched on the presidential palace.

India’s important national elections being held over the next few weeks will tell us whether the outcry will lead to any significant change.

I hope so. But I have my doubts.

Yes, all of the main political parties announced big plans to make India safer for women, or at least outlaw the harshest forms of brutality against them. But what happens after the elections will tell the story.

Whichever party wins the election will be under pressure to improve a lagging economy and deal with government corruption. My fear is that all the rhetoric regarding women’s rights will fade away with little or no significant action.

Even if bold new laws are passed, it could be generations before the effects take root in the complicated caste systems, rural areas and impoverished communities.

At Unbound (formerly known as CFCA) we don’t want to wait for that.

In 2008 we began working in Suryapet, a marginalized community outside of Hyderabad.

We found that many families in the community were selling their baby girls to adoption centers because they simply could not afford to raise them. When the government learned of this practice and began to crack down, families stopped selling their baby girls, but some also stopped feeding them. Several baby girls starved to death. The remedy was even worse than the original problem.

The approach our organization takes in India is to work with individual women and families, giving them the regular financial and social support they will need for what looks to be a long journey toward gender justice. We challenge cultural norms by encouraging families to educate their girl children, and we help mothers to become an organized force in the community so that they can become the primary agents of the changes they wish to see.

Once they had been organized into small groups, the mothers of Suryapet created solutions to safety issues and helped each other launch small businesses with microloans. Today the mothers in our program are not only keeping their daughters safe and healthy but also sending them to school.

Two girls in Suryapet walk together to school.

Two girls in Suryapet walk together to school.

Husbands and fathers change their views when they begin to discover the economic potential of their wives and daughters. Their views change even more when they discover the political clout of women who have become an organized force in the community. The boys of Suryapet are now being raised in a community atmosphere that values the dignity of all people.

Unbound sponsors nearly 30,000 children in India today, creating this same type of impact on thousands of families and communities. By no means would we say we have this problem all figured out, but we’re encouraged by the impact of these courageous women.

A grass-roots approach to gender justice will change the story for many girls in India, regardless of the outcome of the current elections.

Dan Pearson, director of international programs at Unbound

Dan Pearson, director of international programs at Unbound

93 thoughts on “India can be a dangerous place to be a girl”

  1. I contend that it is even more dangerous if you are a boy. There is a huge public empathy gap, here in India and elsewhere in the world when it comes to gender. There are equal, if not more, numbers of boys who are abused. They just suffer in silence because even if they talk about it, no one cares. They are just supposed to grin and bear it. The media only sensationalizes female victims of abuse that leads everyone to assume or believe that boys do not suffer similar, if not more abuse than young girls. What’s more, when these same boys grow up, raping them is not even against the law. Check out IPC section 375 that defines rape in terms of a female victim and a male perpetrator. With all the false cases under section 498A, gendered laws like section 354 (Sexual Harassment) and domestic violence act of 2005 that only protects women, a man in India can be sexually harassed at work, raped in the streets, emotionally, physically, verbally and sexually abused by his wife, striped of his fundamental human rights of presumption of innocence and rights to due process and it is all legal!! You will realize when you live here as an ordinary male citizen, that this is no country for men.

  2. There are hundreds of thousands of Black boys are in jail in America and there are many teenage girls become pregnant and single mother . Go help them first.

    1. There is no comparison in this country with what the children in India can be subject to. And helping them doesn’t mean we can’t also help those in our own country.

  3. I am born and bought up in India.I strongly disagree with this stereotype image of my country.I got all the rights and freedom since my childhood.
    Now I am living overseas and for ur kinda information I am still not feeling safe in this developed country to roam around alone at midnight.Therefore,for God sake stop spreading these false and pernicious information about India

  4. Absolutely right . there are sadist males as well as females who make their spouses lives not only hell but miserable to the extent of driving them to commit suicide or abandon the family .

  5. Hi,
    I born and brought up in india and now I am software developer . I got all the freedom and education. I am working in foreign from last 10 years and I see mostly indian girls as software developer in any company i have worked. so pls stop spreading this fake message.

  6. I too disagree to the stupid stereotype created with this news. I am 32 years of age and have spent 22 years of my life , growing up in North India. I work for a reputable bank here in Aus, I got all the opportunities to get educated and shine in life. I have been out till late doing shopping, meeting friends without any fear of being raped. I have travelled alone within cities ( on public transport) as young girl to help my father with his business. I was the right hand of my father, due to the fact that there was no one else to help him. And never, I mean never I have faced situations where I was in fear of being killed, molested or raped!!! I don’t know where these authors find such theories!! Look around, you will find a big number of Indian descent girls and women, educated and working in white collar sector…..I guess it proves my point.

    1. I find it so interesting that so many people on this thread here are so annoyed at this article….accusing them of spreading lies and stereotypes, but on the same token admit they no longer live in India. If India is so great for women then why didn’t you stay there??? Furthermore, I am sure you haven’t traveled to all areas and know all corners of what the poor experience there. You are the elite…and if you are now a software engineer…good for you. But now give back to your country where people need help and don’t worry about how the message “women in India need help” reflects on you.

      1. @ steena you are correct. There is an elite in India who can get educated and go abroad where life is just simpler. I am one of them. I am a physician here but could not be one in India. Not because I am female but because I am not intelligent enough to get thru Med school in India. Here it’s a breeze and life is so much simpler and easier here and less competitive. Having said that I also agree with you that there is a vast proportion of Indian living below the poverty line and the females are at risk. Sadly the men who attack the girls are boys who were molested or attacked also. Violence begets violence. We need to nip the problem in the bud by getting to the youngsters and educations them. It is a vast country with a deep rooted culture and societal rules and customs. Sadly a huge challenge. All the while producing intelligent educated and strong women, despite this issue. India is an incredible country, a very ancient culture and quite naturally has its fair share of challenges like any other country. I am off to Haiti to do a week of medical work. Trying to do my small part for this world.

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